Personal Growth Success

Many times, when all of our doubts, fears, and insecurities find their way to the surface, we start thinking, “I wish I was somebody else.” More often than not, we think and believe that someone (or rather most people) are better than us, when in reality, the fact is, most people are just as scared as we are.

You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party, casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read her mind, you might just be amazed that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?… Why don’t guys find me attractive? …I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny… I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”

We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wow… what else could he ask for?” And yet he stares at himself at the mirror and mutters to himself, “I hate my big eyes… I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me… I hope mom and dad would still work things out.”

Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them. Meanwhile, they look at us and think the same thing. We sometimes envy other people who themselves envy us! Silly, right?  Many of us suffer from low self-esteem and lack of self-confidence.  But it’s important that you don’t lose hope in self improvement.

Stop thinking of yourself as a second-rate being. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement and personal growth. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy them.

We all have insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life does not need to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves. Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to accept ourselves and grow, then we begin to feel contented and happy.

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