Words Of Encoragement After Loss Of A Loved One
Are you trying to cope with the death of your boyfriend or do you know someone who is? Well this is a painful situation to be in. It takes a lot of self encouragement and some encouragement words from your friends and loved ones.
You need to understand that the grieving process has some certain steps or feelings. Let me share some of those feelings – hopefully you will realise that you are not alone and you are on your way to healing.
Disbelief
Disbelief is the first feeling that comes when you are told about some bad news especially the loss of someone you love. This is especially true when you have just been talking to your boyfriend a few moments ago. This initial feeling may last for a couple of hours and sometimes days. In most occasions it lasts up to the day of the funeral.
Shock
Seeing or hearing news about the death can be quite shocking. In most cases this happens at the funeral after reality strikes. This hits you as soon as you realise that your boyfriend is actually gone – dead. Shock is temporary, in no time the feeling goes away.
Anger
This feeling can be directed at any one and everyone including yourself and the people who were meant to “protect” your boyfriend. If you do not properly manage anger, it can get really destructive. Guide your words, thoughts and actions at this time. Buy some books about daily words of encouragement to help you deal with this destructive feeling.
Pain
Pain is tormenting and longer lasting. It calls for some consistent exposure to words of encouragement. This is a really harsh feeling. It feels like a thorn that mercilessly prickles the heart beyond what human nature can bare. Although it may take longer but eventually it dies. I don’t mean to say you forget what happened but you simply are able to live without feeling bad all the time.
Another feeling that is attached to pain is helplessness and also regret. What ever feeling you have, time does heal – believe me, I know.
